Experience : Mob Mentality

If I wish to describe mob in one line. That would be : they are the creators, they are the destroyers, they are the doers because next person is the same. Won't be appreciating the mob for getting us independence, and few other things or criticizing them for demolishing or destructing and doing the acts I feel are wrong and irrational. I am writing this to share an experience. Last year, near Deepawali, - the time company is bound to give bonus to employees - the time we are bound to give bonus to the house maid, chaukidaar and even company's bus driver. It was an early morning (doesn't really matter how older I get, 7:00 O Clock in the morning, "ll always be early for me) when everyone in the bus including me was thinking about the collection being done by the helper of my company's bus. I wanted to know how much money I have to give which is the same as everybody else gives. After 10 minutes I had the list in my hands and I was supposed to put my name and money given on it. Ten names were already there and everybody gave 100 Rs each. I knew that 50 people are behind me. I knew I had the chance to break the rule (which everybody was following till now because they didn't had guts to break it). I wanted a proof that people will give less than 100 Rs if given a chance. So, I did it. I took 50 Rs out of my pocket & gave it to the helper & to my surprise it wasn't embarrassing. I ignored the disappointment I saw on the face of the helper because I had a reason for doing it. I wanted to be free and so was I. Person just sitting next to me also gave 50 Rs that too after getting change from me. Wow! It was a great feeling. I gave him independence to do what he wanted to do. Later on, when I got the full list I was happy to see that more than 40% out of 50 commuters gave 50 Rs because they had the an option for it. Rest gave 100 Rs may be because they wanted to or may be because they were shy to ask for 50 Rs change. And for all those altruists who gave 200 Rs, God bless them.

Introspection : 100% honest with somebody:

Well, I have heard many couples saying that they are 100% honest to their partners. Somehow, I was never able to digest whatever they said and completely believe them. I am not saying that they are lying. They say so because they feel that they are 100% honest. Finally, I found out the reason why I wasn't able to believe that one can be 100% honest to somebody. Its because, no one is 100% honest to itself. I decided to be 100% honest with somebody. First step was to be 100% honest with myself. I always believed that I am honest to myself, but when I closely analyzed the theories, I realized that I believe in some theories because I am comfortable with believing in them. I realized that some of the theories I formulated for myself, some of the reasons I have been giving to myself till now gave me false hopes and comfort. So, I decided to face the truth and thought of critically re-analyzing all the postulates, reasonings and theories, and then to leave whatever is not truth even if I am very much comfortable with it. WTF? Its not that easy. Indeed I realized that I am not that strong enough to face the truth and stop believing in whatever I am comfortable with, and finally stand fully naked in front of mirror just to get the glance of "100% Jasdeep - so pure, so honest". Finally, I came up with an excuse : Afterall, I am human and I was so relieved, so calm, so peaceful, so happy. Anyway, when I wrote that "I realized that I am not that strong enough to....", I meant "I realized that I am 'STILL' not that strong enough to....". Wish me luck.

Theory: Choosing a gf is like choosing shoes.

1. While choosing shoes, one first looks at his budget and then decide what to buy, similarly while choosing a gf one looks at his "aukat" first and then go for choosing. Both "aukat" and money are quantitative items, and decides ones ability to get a girl and buy shoes respectively.

2. While choosing a gf or shoes, one always adore girls (out of aukat) and shoes (out of budget).

3. No one knows how long its going to last.

4. Looks: it matters alot in both cases. Comfort: Matters more than looks. Every man has the tendency to go for looks rather than comfort although he knows that comfort matters more than looks.

5. New shoes and new gf appears comfortable because one is illusioned by its looks.

6. Sooner or later both gf and shoes will loose its beauty. What's left is comfort.

7. In case one chooses a wrong gf or wrong pair of shoes as there is high probability one will, one has to live with it or wear it until they become comfortable. In this process of making things comfortable for oneself, one has to be patient as no-one knows how much time its going to take.


I was a child when started choosing shoes according to my comfort. Looks matters but its not that difficult to choose for more comfortable shoes when you know comfortness matters more. From last 10 years I am spending money on sleepers as i now i am more comfortable with it. So, if you want a gf compatible to you or you are looking for comfort, start with buying a pair of shoes keeping in mind comfort the priority. And, its okay to increase budget for shoes as they matter alot in our life (i hope u "ll get me what i wanted to say). I believe very strongly that for every guy there is a pair of shoes designed especially for him and a girl especially designed for him. All you have to do is to search that pair of shoes and that girl. All the best.




P.S: When I said "I believe very strongly that for every guy........bla bla bla", I didn't believe in it. I wrote it because I thought this line would give a moral or a conclusion or a hope to you. Reality is : no one knows whether there are shoes or girls especially designed for you only. Still, why not try for comfortable shoes and gf. Rest everything I wrote, I believe. Cheers!

Poem: You, like an angel

You take be back from abyss, each time I fall down
Back from that darkness, which for years I have known.
You brought back my smile, brought back my happiness,
And now I am feeling; my life is blessed.

You, like an angel. Came in my life & made it beautiful
You, like an angel. Gave me smiles & a reason to live

When I had nothing and everything was lost
You showed me new light, gave me hope,
You showed life is beautiful and has a reason to live.
"you reincarted my life" thts wht I feel

You, like an angel. Came in my life & made it beautiful
You, like an angel. Gave me smiles & a reason to live.

Was left with just one option and pain I choose
By cursing myself, thread of my life was getting loose.
You showed me I can choose anything, and I got to ride
& then I stood again, with you being by my side.

You, like an angel. Came in my life & made it beautiful
You, like an angel. Gave me smiles & a reason to live